I was recently forwarded a question regarding proper etiquette for calling someone whom you met on an online dating site. It seems the woman who asked the question was wondering why the men she meets online expect her to call them. The answer is simple. In fact, there was an entire book written about this and even a movie, He’s just not that into you.
Now you might be thinking, “no, no, no, that all depends on who gave their number out first”. Yeah, there was that whole thing about women being more assertive and the age-old concept of ladies first. And you might even be thinking that modern women are more busy and it might be more polite to let them call when it’s convenient for them. In fact, there are countless other excuses that are equally lame. The point is, men, if a woman gives you her number and you don’t call her it sends the very clear message that you’re just not that into her.
I want to point out two clear facts about this. The first one is that, when a woman gives a man her number it’s an invitation to call. That’s not even open for interpretation, it’s cut and dry. The second is that she didn’t have to give you her number. She could have said “No” or simply not responded to your email or whatever. Women are fairly choosy when it comes to giving out their phone number. So, you’ve been chosen, make the call. I can’t think of a worse message you could send to a woman than, “I’m kind of into you but only if it requires no effort on my part”. Yeah, that really makes a woman feel special.
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