Keep him waiting: Don’t be ready when he shows up to take you out to dinner, it makes you seem desperate. Besides, you want to give him a realistic idea of what it will be like to be married to you. Take control early on and show him that it actually is all about you and he’s destined to spend the rest of his life waiting for you to be ready.
Don’t order “just a salad”: We all know that you eat. While it may be cute to make him think that you are too shy to eat in front of him, he’s going to be wondering what else you’re hiding. Besides, statistically speaking, this guy will end up being a jerk just like all the other jerks. So, you might as well enjoy a restaurant quality meal. You can keep your frozen dinners for the nights that you are home alone watching Lost.
Don’t order the spaghetti: Or anything else that’s messy. After dinner you might be thinking that he can’t keep his eyes off your chest. And you’re right. But, he’s not admiring your perfect figure, hes just staring at the stain on your blouse. Plus, you’re not going to get that first date kiss with the orange glow of spaghetti sauce around your mouth.
Don’t put out on the first date: Okay, you haven’t been out on a date since Bush was president. And we are talking Herbert Walker. But that’s no reason to over do it on the first date and appear desperate. You may justify it by thinking that he’s going to interpret it as “I really like you”. But, no matter how much emphasis you place on “I never do this sort of thing”, he’s thinking that you do. And no man wants to be married to the woman who impulsively has sex with guys she just met.
Don’t be a follower: Yeah, this is the single most important rule to having a good first date. Don’t follow any rules. He asked you out because he wanted to go out on a date with you. Not who your friends told you to be and not who some blog post told you to be…you. Games have rules, dates don’t. If you want to play games, stay home and play Farmville. Trust me when I tell you that he will be a lot happier being stood up than giving you a few hours to mess with his head.
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